How to stop being the nice guy

And why your niceness is getting in the way

There are two kinds of nice guys. One is most concerned about how others perceive him. The other is most concerned about camouflage. We’re not going to focus on the latter, because the latter is predator not worth talking sense into. That is not how you handle predators effectively. The former however is genuinely a nice guy, who wants to be seen as nice, which is ironically the source of all his problems. You’ve heard “nice guys finish last” because it’s true. Now I’m going to explain why.